What are ways of re-framing practicing a new skill so you don't get discouraged before you begin to see improvement?


It's super important to remember that you're not bad it. You're new at it. And that's a important difference to remember when you're starting out with something. <3


this is where I find doing some sort of journal very helpful: Taking a little time, frequently, to reflect & record my efforts, primarily or only for myself, helps combat feelings of not having done enough, to combat my inner critic that lies and tells me I haven't done *anything*

@imani I try not to listen to the experts too much. I want to play with it for a really long time, and never ever think about the stuff that the elitists think I should "get right from the beginning".

Like I never got anywhere with voice practice on my own, because everyone said to start with breathing excercises....

@imani I think it might help to just think of practice as part of your daily routine and self-care. It might help take some of the pressure off and help you make sure you're setting aside enough time for it.

@imani For me setting small reasonable goals is very helpful. It may seem like a goal is "too easy" if it's too small, but when you accomplish it you can use that sense of completion as motivation. Also completing any goal is progression, no matter how small.

@imani Let's assume I'm in a position to respond, then:

The usual advice is to do it not because you want to achieve a big goal (you will forget the initial motivation later on anyway), but because you enjoy the process. So don't push it beyond enjoyment, and focus on the relative (usually small) improvements.
Definitely don't compare your achievements to the achievements of those who've literally spent their entire lives on it, or started from better initial conditions. Because that's irrelevant.

The point is to leverage the addiction mechanisms (that's why they're with us actually).

The idea that one may/should plan everything ahead, and pursue a dream goal for a prolonged period of time until they finally succeed and get renowned is just a nonsense and does more harm than good (I can actually name no good from it).

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